They have arrived!
I was too occupied these days.. so all the entries in this post are written by Ramesh on my behalf.
I was too occupied these days.. so all the entries in this post are written by Ramesh on my behalf.
09-02-2012
The preparations are on. 50 cm x 50 cm white cloths washed and dried with edges stitched kept ready , two white double dhoti washed and dried in sun is also ready. B+ blood might be required, so identified four people. (Blood is available at IMA, but we can replace it).
10-02-2012
Puja and prayers at temples done. Had a bed side scan. Nothing significant.
11-02-2012
Raining mightily. Rare for February.
Just getting ready for the big day.
14-02-2012
At the conclusion of a journey of waiting, hoping and praying we became parents at 9.30 am today. 36 weeks and 6 days.
Operation theater at 8.00 am. I drifted off with anesthesia. When I woke up I thought the effect wore off in the middle of the surgery, because I felt that my belly was still cut open, searing sharp pain cutting through the skin. In a few seconds I gathered that the surgery was over, the skin is indeed stitched, it is only the pain of the past. Then I heard the magical words- one of the doctors was telling someone else (on the phone, I think)..'..two boys and one girl..' I savored the moment. As I was quiet, and since they knew I was conscious, the nurses became concerned. They told me that it is over and prompted me to ask something. When I asked how much the babies weigh, they were relieved. They said, 'eldest is son, he is 2.07 kg,(I smiled), second is girl, 1.74 kg (a little low?) and third is boy, 1.545 kg (oh, is he OK?)'. They said all three are OK, and are taken to NICU.
Then they pushed the stretcher out and took me to the room. A mix of happiness and sorrow filled me. I think it is very important that the moment mother wakes up the baby/ies should be there for her to see, touch, hug and kiss..That moment will never come back. At least just for five minutes..it is the need of her body and soul, and may be the same for the babies too. I now think that I should have requested it before the surgery started, they would not have denied it, unless there was an emergency (which, thankfully, wasn't there). But at the time I did not know what was about to happen. I still miss not seeing them the moment I opened my eyes. Nevertheless I was so, so deeply thankful everything went well, babies were healthy and I felt blessed.
Version of my parents and husband-
Many relatives were present outside the OT, Ramesh's brothers and sisters, my mother's sister, and my dear friend MD teacher (she was the first to come, and stay throughout). Akka was inside the OT all throughout. At 9.40 am a nurse came out and informed everyone about the births. Soon three nurses came out one by one, each holding a tiny white bundle with only a sweet, tiny face outside, and they rushed off to the elevator to the NICU. My mother also crammed into the elevator and got a glimpse of the faces. Only Baby-A was making a kitten like sound. B and C were sleeping.
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| Baby-A, 3 hours old, at NICU |
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| Baby- B, 3 hours old, at NICU |
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| Baby-C, 3 hours old, at NICU |
Much later I woke up in the room. Many of our relatives and well wishers came and left. Ramesh had a chance to go to NICU and see the babies. He brought back the video which I watched hungrily many times. The most beautiful babies in the world. Couldn't take my eyes off the tiny pink fingers. When my little girl opened her mouth as if to ask for milk, my heart melted. She had a lot of hair on her body-my naughty chimp! Baby-C was crying a lot, the nurses said. They had some little problems like yellowish tint of the skin (they call it jaundice, though it is not very serious) which was being treated at NICU. Also they were being given vitamins, iron and other supplements. They were covered in tubes. Formula was being fed through nose. I could not yet produce milk. (This whole issue is described in another section). In the evening nurses came and forced me to get up and walk, so my cut would heal soon. It seemed like torture, though they were extremely gentle and patient with me. I simply could not walk to the bath room, and I simply wanted to lie down, curl up and sleep.
Thus I went to bed with a lot of physical pain, lot of craving to see them, and anxiousness and hopes for tomorrow.
15-02-2012
Saw my babies today. All three cried. Then they got their pacifiers and slept. I just watched them for a long time, touched them and then left.
Neonatologist is DrAG. He is very good. All babies in NICU are made to lie on their stomach. Reduces gas it seems. My family and elders are apprehensive about it, but we are following doc's orders anyway.
16-02-2012
Last night was too painful Could not sleep. Morning doctor came and insisted that I walk, only then the gas will go and pain will subside. Bought formula for babies.
17-02-2012
We shifted to one of the private rooms attached to NICU. Small room, two small cots. Then they gave my eldest- Baby-A- all to myself.
Usually DrAG allows only parents in NICU. But in my case as we require help with the trio, my parents are also allowed to come. In the afternoon after Baby-A came, Ramesh went to buy cloths, formula and diapers for him. They placed him on a pillow, on his stomach. Me and mother were too scared to move him or pick him up. Later the nurses showed us how to change diapers, how to give olive oil massage to him etc. Every one hour they come and feed him 6 ml formula through the nose. Some of the nurses are very good and sweet, some are a bit rude.
Late evening mother left and Ramesh went out to have dinner. He had just had his formula, and the nurse left. I was alone with him, I closed to door and tried to hold him and feed him. He tried to latch on, too. Blessed moments. Have described it in another section.
Started the process of obtaining birth certificates.
19-02-2012
Got our little girl- Baby-B- at 2 pm today. I am becoming slightly possessive of them.
Nurses taught us how to hold the babies supporting their heads- holding behind their necks. Very easy to pick them up and hold once we master it. Mother still prefers to hold them horizontally, but holding them vertically is more scientific- lets out the gas, easy to burp and less colic. Both babies sleep a lot but at the end of an hour, if formula feeding is a bit late- even 5 minutes- they stir up and start crying. Even though DrAG has instructed 6 ml and 5 ml, sometimes nurses give them more formula saying they are still hungry. I criticized them once for this, and they were surprised saying that we should see to it that they are well-fed. I felt sheepish. May be I should not adhere to rule book- I should understand the babies' needs more.
